Busy – the new cancer

busyWhat the hell is it with us and “busy”?  We all have it, everyone says they don’t want it and yet, here we go cramming our lives to the top!  I have so many clients that ask for help with their scheduling or organization of their lives and 9 times out of 10 it has NOTHING to do with the scheduling, the paper or the mess and everything to do with our attitudes.

If you are finding you are constantly busy and want something different, take a look at some of the ways to ending the madness:

  1. Appreciate that busy is a choice.  Yep, it’s a choice and you can choose differently.  Our schedules are arranged by us for us and for the ones we love.  If you are filling your life with things you don’t love, look at that.  If you are filling it with things you love, look at that.
  2. Clean up your environment.  If you are walking into a bomb every time you step into your house, even if you aren’t actually busy in your timing, you might be scattered by the chaos around you.  Get your family on board and attack the areas that will bring you the most peace in your day to day life.  Once you have done it, put something beautiful in the space – a photo you love, a vase of fresh flowers, a gorgeous candle and let it be a reminder to keep it clean and the peace that it brings you.
  3. CUT it out!  Where can you cut some crap out of your day?  Stop a volunteer position that doesn’t fulfill you, do laundry only once a week, car pool with another mom to dance class, get your partner to make dinner twice a week.
  4. Watch your language.  Stop saying how busy you are.  We get it, you’re important, you’re needed, you’re super woman.  When you glorify busy, you make the rest of us glorify busy and then we in turn glorify busy and the cycle continues.  Stop the madness and let’s start being vulnerable and letting people in to our lives that does not glorify our busyness.
  5. Fun is #1.  Yep, top priority.  Fun.  Make it part of EVERYDAY!  Have a dance party when you get home, take a walk over your lunch break, spend 15 minutes knitting, enjoy a glass of wine in your backyard, get on the floor with the kids and build a castle of blocks.
  6. Make your top priority being present in everything you do.  Put your phone down, let voicemail answer your phone, take a breath and ground yourself when you find yourself running in a million directions.
  7. When you wake up in the morning, check in with yourself.  Ask yourself what % you are at.  If you are high, you have the availability to give and give.  If your # is mid-range, you can give, but make sure you take time to receive, if your # is low, you have no business taking from a dry well and you need to take care of yourself first and only do the bare minimum required.  You’re levels on a daily basis help you check in for the day and if you start noticing your levels at telling you more about your life, it might be time to really look at what you have going on.

Busy is the new cancer.  As you cut that cancer out of your life, step into your healthy new vibrant way of being and enjoy some fun, freedom, friends and family! Slow it down

 

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8 Responses to Busy – the new cancer

  1. Ah yes, the holy grail of ‘Im so busy!’ Busy has always been, and will always be, to some extent. People go through seasons, some are super busy, some less so. I think it is really powerful to actually look at the ‘busy’ and see what we might be hiding from by keeping things at that pace.

    • Ah yes, uncovering what’s underneath. Why we are getting/staying busy. What it offers us. For me, it’s almost always been relevance, importance. Feeling like I matter. Which intellectually I know is completely ridiculous, but I catch myself in it. Much less now, but occasionally. Rushing, doing, BUSY. I have themed this quarter of the year as Flow, Ease, Integration as a reminder to really make the most of this time of year to enjoy my family, be in nature and s-l-o-w down.

      I’d love to see us as a society take the value of the holy grail of busyness down a notch. When we all stop allowing it, doing it, accepting it, we can start to change it’s importance.

  2. Susan Sontra says:

    I was just thinking about this the other day. I have been laid of for nearly 8 months and I realized about 2 months ago that I stopped answering the question, “how are you?” with the word busy. Busy has become a feeling. I began noticing how often other people say it. Though it would be good to be working again, I am grateful for the chance to slow down and look at things from a different perspective. Great tips for changing the “busy”.

    • I can so relate Susan. I felt justified in my life after leaving my last corporate job by stating my busyness. If I was busy, then things must be good. I made a right choice. I matter. Sigh.

      As soon as I chose to remove the cloak of busyness, I got the opportunity to be present, to be in deeper conversations and to open myself up to seeing what was next for me.

      I love what you said about busy being a feeling. lol. I can so see that now. It’s a doing isn’t it? Not a being. Not a feeling.

      Enjoy the slowing down Susan and thanks for the read and the feedback!

  3. Paula says:

    What a great article and I agree with all of your points. Personally I have made it my resolution to get up an hour earlier every day to get in tune with myself, relax and soak up the morning so that I can feel ready for my day. Busy is only what we make it, we don’t have to do stuff if we dont want to it’s only our own pressures on ourselves that make us stressed. Do what you love and get busy doing that, then that C word won’t come into your life at all. A wonderfully no nonsense post, thank you 🙂

  4. Natalie says:

    Thanks for this post, Michaella! #s 1 and 3 especially resonate with me right now. I have made the choice to be busy… and I love burning the candle at both ends sometimes. But I am working on making my true loves priorities and cutting the unfulfilling crap OUT! I’ve always found it hard to say “no,” but I’m definitely getting better at that each day. And amen to FUN being #1!

    • Wow Natalie, I love the ownership of declaring that you have been making the choice to be busy and now you are choosing another way. What a fantastic why – true loves! Have FUN getting out of the busy and into the love!

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