I definitely didn’t know that this was going to be the thing that I focused on for my #40DaysofGiving when I got up today. I was called to go to an emergency executive meeting for the nonprofit board that I’m on last night. In the last fewweeks I have been sensing that it might be time for me to move on from the board and potentially the organization, but I hadn’t really flushed all of it out but this meeting brought it to the surface. Talking to my husband about it before going I had decided that I would keep it to myself and not concerned the rest of the board with how I was feeling. Things would come out as they were meant to when the timing was right.
As we are going through the nuances of the meeting it occurs to me that there’s an elephant in the room. How I am feeling is about more than just me. I realized in that moment that while it would be hard for me to share my thoughts it was what was best for the organization and the board. Now I’m not someone that typically holds back and yet I could feel that I needed to be vulnerable and share my whole truth and for some reason this felt kind of scary.
It was as if speaking it into the room took the weight off of all of our shoulders. We all have had so much going on in our lives in the past year and this just put it out in the open, freeing ourselves up for possibility, creativity, and understanding for everybody’s situations. The outcomes might vary but at the end of the day we were all better off having a conversation about the bigger picture than having a conversation about the small details.
Where else does the truth need to be spoken?
– In doctors offices and in the hospitals. Too often we keep quiet when we are in the presence of people who we deem more superior. Your health and well-being should be a collaboration and you should always speak your truth about what’s going on for you physically and emotionally.
– In restaurants. If you want your food to be done a certain way, have things added or removed or substituted, tell them. It’s for them to decide whether or not they want to honor that request and it’s for you to decide whether or not you want to eat what they are putting in front of you. You also have full permission to get up and choose another restaurant and pay for food that would better serve your needs.
– “No” is a full sentence. Learn it, use it, don’t explain yourself.
– Teaching our children to speak their truth in their education is an important lesson to teach. Modeling for them to speak their voice in their learning is a lifelong lesson. My daughter was recently assigned a novel to read that she deemed to be inappropriate (at grade 8 she didn’t want to read about the c-word – fair enough). When she went to her teacher and explained how it made her feel I was incredibly proud of her for speaking her truth. Could she have read the book? Of course. But speaking her truth about not wanting to was a far more valuable lesson.
Yeah #day35. Toughie, but a goodie!